Humiliation, objectification, and complete financial control – for most, these are unacceptable actions, but there is a group of people who derive genuine satisfaction from such experiences. So, what is this fetish?
What is Findom?
Findom, or financial domination, is a specific form of BDSM relationships. It involves an exchange between two people, where the dominant partner – or “dominant” – takes control over the finances of the submissive partner – or “submissive.” In this dynamic, one person not only takes on a more dominant role than usual (though it can be the other way around) but also gains exclusive rights to financial decisions and resources.
Boundaries and Rules
The relationship between a mistress and a sub always occurs online, and they never meet in real life.
When it comes to rules, it should be noted that everything depends on what the submissive side wants. The mistress and the slave always discuss in advance what is acceptable and what is not.
It is also important to remember that all agreed-upon actions must not violate the rules of the platforms where the member and the model communicate. For example, on Chaturbate and Stripchat, actions that are abusive or cause discomfort are strictly prohibited. Additionally, programs like TeamViewer and AnyDesk cannot be used.
Budget Control
Some subs prefer to give their financial dominatrix complete control over their budget. In this case, the fins is left with just enough money to barely get through the month on a minimal diet, while the rest goes to the woman.
Another rule of the game can be fines or extortion of money if the slave has done something wrong in the eyes of the mistress. The slave didn’t flinch during a spanking? Fine. He said something inappropriate in response? Another fine. Many fans of findom find this practice particularly exciting.
Gifts
Findom often involves gifts for the dominatrix. These can range from small sums of money at the beginning, so the woman sees the seriousness of the “money slave’s” intentions, to more substantial gifts later on.
Surprised that none of this involves any sexual actions? It’s true – during communication and this kind of role-play, the mistress might never undress on camera or engage in virtual sex.
Humiliation
Many finsubs or paypigs are willing to pay you to laugh at them or tell them, for example, that they have a small penis. It may be difficult at first, but remember that humiliation and domination are exactly why the slave came to you, and you can’t offend them with this. Tell them that they are pathetic and a complete loser, and that all they can offer you is money.
Where to find a paypig?
RichSubs is a website similar to LoyalFansor OnlyFans but specializes in Findom. On the Chaturbate website, there is a special #findom tag that you need to use in the title of your broadcast to attract such members. On the Imlive website, there is also a “fetishes” category for users, where members can find girls who work with findom. Some models specifically look for one or more slaves to receive a constant and stable income.
How to recognize a findom enthusiast?
Typically, when joining a stream, they will greet you using terms like “mistress” and “my lady.” Additionally, such a member will hint at their desire for domination, saying things like how weak and pathetic they are or that they want to be punished. Sometimes they may start sending tokens to the model without asking for anything in return.
After this, it’s advisable to move to private messages and, as they say, test the waters. In other words, you need to identify the emotion that brought them to you and understand what exactly they want to do for you. If the man turns out to be a genuine findom enthusiast, you’re in luck; you can proceed to discuss boundaries and rules. Sometimes, after agreeing on boundaries and rules, they might even send you their card details! Alternatively, they may become a regular member and frequently take you to private chats, tipping for humiliation or control.
Mistakes in Findom
Misunderstanding the Sub’s Motivation and Desires
People who don’t grasp the essence of this fetish might think that findom is the same as role-playing with a sugar daddy. Let me assure you, these are fundamentally different things.
The difference lies in motivation: a “daddy” spends money to have power and control over the girl, while a slave spends money to be controlled by the financial mistress. Another distinction is in the communication process: typically, a daddy wants flirting, sexual talk, your undressing on camera, and interaction that ultimately leads to sex. A slave, on the other hand, may never seek sexual pleasure and will want you to humiliate him while managing his money.
Mistaking a Regular Member for a Sub
Some members like to pretend to be financial slaves. But why, you ask? Perhaps the aim is to get a girl’s attention and then achieve their goals, which may be far from findom.
Moving Too Quickly to Force Payment
If you have indeed confirmed that you are dealing with a findom enthusiast, you should not immediately rush to force him to pay you. Firstly, it is incorrect in terms of building your relationship and discussing boundaries and rules. Secondly, just because he came to you doesn’t mean he has chosen to pay only you and only today. Remember, you need to understand what emotion he seeks and what to do next.
Deviating from the Mistress Role in Free Chat
If you work as a cam model and have chosen the mistress persona to attract findom enthusiasts, you should consistently play this role. If you start building a relationship with a member and behave as a mistress but then interact differently with other users in free chat, the member may experience dissonance. He is likely to lose interest in you and stop visiting you altogether.
Thus, you shouldn’t play the role of mistress while simultaneously catering to other users’ whims for small tips in free chat.
