There are no positive reasons for dating a married man. Even the good reasons don’t stand the test of time and turn out to be bad ideas in good ideas’ clothing. After a brief research on why ladies get involved with married men it was discovered that most times this ladies go after married men because they are rich, compared to their broke boyfriend. They are more caring, for they know how to take care of them and they are always there for them. They have security and connection through these men. But ask yourself if it’s really worth it, losing your pride and dignity for something so lowly and vain.
A woman with even an ounce of pride would NEVER share someone else’s husband. If you find yourself on the brink of temptation, look at these 10 truths before you leap:
1. It is so wrong
Of all the reasons not to get involved with a married man, the primary one has to be this: it’s just plain wrong. Both a married man and his girlfriend can come up with all sorts of reasons to justify what they’re doing – it’s real love, his wife doesn’t treat him right, etc. Those are excuses but cheating is never right, and a person with dignity just wouldn’t be part of it. Getting involved with a married man is so wrong even for all the right reasons. Society frowns at it, God detests fornication, and you aren’t being fair to even yourself.
2. He is the winner
He’s got his cake and is eating it, too. He has a legitimate married relationship that helps his public persona and he has an illegitimate one with you to make up for what he missing in his marriage.He can spends his days with you and his nights with his wife; if you ask us, he is very blessed. When he is tired of you, he can move on with no strings attached, and don’t think he won’t.
If he could do that to someone to whom he is legally bound, what will he do to you who only has his words? He is the one who is being hailed by his friends as “the really big man” while you are the husband- snatcher. He wins, for while his morale is always high, yours will be low, for you will have no dignity or pride again.
3. He won’t leave her for you
We don’t care how many promises he made to you, don’t expect him to leave her and come marry you. So you can start preparing yourself for heartbreak when he moves on to someone else who is just as naïve. And yes he’ll find someone sweeter, shapelier and better than you ever are. pity you, he goes home to his wife, you go home wishing he it had lasted forever.
4. He might not be who you think he is
We hear stories about how some girls were used for ritual sacrifice, it isn’t a day that the act is perpetuated, the married man could have kept stuffing the girl with money and food, like a broiler waiting for the day he’ll slaughter her for money ritual.
But of course he wouldn’t use his wife. You don chop, come die, funny. Besides you will never know for sure where he is, what he is doing, and who he is doing it with. There is always two sides to every story and unfortunately, you will never know any other side but his.
5. You’ll always be his little secret
No one can know about you. Not family, not respectable friends, you can’t go out with him in public because you just might get caught either by his family or yours. Plain and simple, he doesn’t want anybody to know about you for the fear of making himself look bad. Prepare for a hide-and-seek affair. You really can’t call what you are having a relationship, think of it more like a hide and seek game.
And hiding can be exhausting, having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship. Walking together freely and radiantly through the world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to be with you. So why even bother?
6. Lose his respect and it’s over
It is pretty obvious that immediately you accept his offer, his respect for you is gone. because he is thinking “she’s after my money” so the likeness reduces and you become his little puppet, he’ll start stringing you around. So even though he’s the one who pursued you, even though he’s the one that made it difficult to say “No.” And even though he tells you how wonderful you are. At some level, he’s going to have trouble respecting you for settling for such a flawed relationship. Watch it, so he won’t wash you
7. You’re kidding yourself
Despite that he tells you he loves you, reassuring you how much you mean to him, his not ending his relationship with his wife and coming into your arms speaks for itself, you are a second best. A mediocre and you are worth having fun with but not marrying. If such is the case why settle for less when you can go for your type.